I just found this unpublished blog sitting in my drafts folder, I thought It was pretty good so I am sharing it now:)
BANG! You hear the gun go off and begin the race to mommyhood. Ok its time, lets do this.
When it comes to "trying to conceive" or ttc for the fertility gurus impatience seems to be THE virtue of every woman with a blaring biological clock alarm. Weeks feel like decades. The days preceding the expected day of doom (First day of your cycle UG) crawl like a dying slug. Over the course of time you pee on countless sticks though you know there is no conceivable way you will get a positive as you only did the deed 6 hours ago. *don't laugh you know you have done this*
Every twinge, every ailment, every dream all seem to point to a possible pregnancy. (for those of you who have no idea what I'm talking about just google pregnancy symptoms)
" Ok so I had a dream last night that I was pregnant, and then I went to the mall and passed a maternity store and the lady by the door handed me a flyer, then after lunch I TOTALLY had to pee and my stomach kind of hurts. I just got off my period and haven't had sex but my boyfriend and I totally made out really hard last week.. could I be pregnant???"
This is only worsened when your heart is aching to be a mommy either again or for the first time.
So what can be done to sooth the gnawing beast of time while you are t.t.c?
I have been interviewing a group of people regarding this matter and this is the list of answers I have come up with in no particular order
ways to preoccupy your mind while waiting for your bfp.
1 Kick the habit *regardless of what it may be anything that is bad for your health is especially bad for you while ttc.
2 change your diet *whole foods are much better for optimal fertility then processed chemicals.
3 kick you booty into high gear fitness wise *Pregnancy is hard on your body, not to mention the marathon that is birth can require an immense amount of stamina. So being physically fit will make this process much easier on you
4 Get your life in order. *Obviously no one is perfect and no ones houses, lives etc are perfect but the less chaos you have in your world (be it physical clutter in your home, cluttered thoughts, unhealthy friendships you know your "demons" and the less there are in your world the more peaceful your world will be for to lower the stress in your life. Stress is awful on the body and affects unborn babies. Babies also have a keen sense of their mommies emotions, so it continues to affect them after they are born as well. Some stress is inevitable but the more stress you can eliminate the better it is overall.
5 Read some books you may think you will have time to read once baby is born and sweetly nursing/sleeping for hours on end but this just isn't the case. Any free moment you have SHOULD be spent sleeping. So any mental prep work you need to do now is the time to do it. You won't have time for parenting books later anyway.
6 Volunteer * Find something you are passionate about and give your time their. Animals? Find a shelter. The elderly? Go visit residents in a nursing home. Babies? Volunteer to work in your churches nursery or sign up for big brother big sister.
7 Babysit * Need practice changing diapers? I promise you there are people with kids BEGGING for sitters. Offer to watch your friend's offspring for an evening while she and her husband go out for dinner.
8 Purge your life This goes along with number 4 but anything in your life that is unhealthy emotionally (ESPECIALLY friendships) Get rid of them. Its hard to do but people affect you far more then you realize. If someone in your life is a drain on you mentally or emotionally take a long hard look at that relationship and weigh if it is worth it.
9 Relationship health *I have heard that marriage can be the closest thing to Heaven and/or the closest thing to Hell here on earth. The same can be said of co parenting. Examine your relationship and determine if you are sure you want to raise children with that person. (I don't care if you have been married 20 years) If your relationship is on the rocks I can promise you kids will NOT make it better. Only worse. Whatever cracks or weak spots a relationship has kids illuminate those areas and make them FAR more apparent. So insure that your relationship is healthy and strong and if its not work on those areas together before adding a baby to the mix
10 Tune your heart into God *Pray, read the bible, build your faith. Trust me you will need it
11 Vitamins/ health regimen This is self explanatory, but health practitioners recommend a vitamin regimen before conceiving since a baby needs a vast majority of its nutrients from the very beginning especially folic acid so make sure you prenatal have the correct amount of Folic Acid in them.
12 Visit the dentist/ ob Get your health in order NOW. Pregnancy makes your teeth get all kind of crazy so take care of any oral health issues you have now. It is encouraged to see an ob before conceiving if possible again to insure any issues are addressed before pregnancy occurs
13 DRINK WATER * water affects SO much in our bodies because we are comprised mostly of water. Most people are chronically dehydrated and though it doesn't sound like a big deal it really is. That dude from the beegees? He died from a fecal impaction caused but dehydration. (I know this cause I suffered from a MUCH milder form of it while pregnant and ended up in the hospital from the pain. Trust me you want to stay nice and hydrated. It also reduces your risk for vaginal tearing, stretch marks wrinkles and a host of other health issues. DRINK YOUR WATER
14 Plan a big event (vacation, party, etc) babies usually come when you are least
expecting them this is almost a sure fire way to get pregnant;)
15 TCOYF!!! Read the book Taking charge of your fertility. TRUST me. If you are female you should read this book. It will change your life.
16 Bucket list Start marking off things on your bucket list. No matter how small just do it!It will certainly make the time go by faster:)
17 Hang out with friends Go on dates, see movies, go to an amusement park, have a game night and drink a glass of wine. Whatever you enjoy doing, now is the time to do it. Cause it is possible that once you are pregnant you wont feel up to it
18 And of course the big one: HAVE LOTS OF SEX :) (thats the fun part) but DON'T get into the trap a lot of people fall into and that is to make it mechanical and cold. Nothing is more unsexy then taking your temp checking your cervical mucus and penciling in your "O" date. But it doesn't have to become a business arrangement or science experiment. Make it fun. Try new things, get creative:)
This is obviously not an exhaustive list simply the things those who have gone before me have shared:) What do you recommend?
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